Haven't blogged in a while....have been super-busy and a little computer-shy. I've been reevaluating what friendship means to me. I think I have spent too much time focusing on artificial, online friendships and not enough on real, live people.
If you blog, then you may be able to relate to how it feels to have a negative comment posted about you. I think normally it would be posted on your own blog, but if you are really lucky (as I was), you may be able to read a negative comment about you posted on someone else's blog. Someone left a comment on someone else's blog that she had read a post written by me, and how I was such a negative person and she felt sorry for me.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now, I have been called a lot of things in my life but negative is not one of them. I readily admit to being opinionated, outspoken, sarcastic, and hard-headed with a low threshold for bullshit. I am also funny, witty, generous, kind and loyal.
I honestly don't know why I can't get past that comment. I wish it didn't bug me. But it does. Perhaps I should add over-sensitive to my list!
So add to that comment the fact that the very next week I saw someone almost every day with whom I have had (what I would call) extensive online communication with and they completely and totally ignored me! I'm talking - eye contact was made and as I was opening my mouth to say hello, their head was turning the other way.
Ouch! Self-esteem definitely suffering!
I won't get into my high school reunion and all the feelings that brought up!
I will, however, say that I have chosen to focus on my true friends. I am blessed to have several. I will have to do separate posts to give each of these friends their due credit: in the past month I have met up with an amazing group of friends from college in New York, spent time with good friends from high school in Connecticut, and then traveled up to Washington to be with one of my favorite couples in the world (as well as their awesome kids!).
So...hooray for you! You have so many exciting posts to look forward to! ooohh...almost forgot! I went skydiving with Kyle and it was an amazing, life-changing experience! Add that to my list of future posts. They will have to wait, as we are leaving for Chico in the morning to bring Kyle back to school. Have a great week!
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3 comments:
I think people should be more honest, direct, and downright open with their true feelings like you are. So many people talk about their lives as if they are coated in sugar, gimme a break. I can see through those statements like a superhero with a magic power, 85% of people are LYING and either being less than honest with themselves or those around them for sake of their reputation. We are all human and feelings more often than not are not all warm and fuzzy, they are real and real doesn't and shouldn't always equate to "everything is fine and dandy". Yes, plenty in our lives to be over the moon about but blogging is like an online journal that people who read it should feel privvy to...whomever characterized you as negative should take a good look in the mirror herself, who made her judge and jury?? Keep the posts coming and don't filter what you write or choose to share FOR ANYONE, that is when you lose the essence of who you are and that my friend would be a shame!
I agree with Melissa. You are so brave to blog with such honesty. I can't even keep an honest journal! I'm always so afraid someone will read it. But you aren't afraid to tell people how things really are. If that seems negative then so be it, to me it shows strength and it shows that you understand life has ups and downs and you want to share all of it because there is something to learn from all of it. Clearly this person doesn't really know you, nor do they have any social graces. Don't let them bring you down!!!
It wasn't me! Like I said before, I usually assume people don't have a clue who I am and if I say hi it is going to lead to an akward explanation of how they know me. Blah blah blah. I know it wasn't me because I say hi to you now! And YES, I am VERY behind on reading blogs!
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